Archive for November, 2009

Some Things On Gratitude…

November 27th, 2009

If there ever were a year that I wanted to express my gratitude it is this year.  I am, by nature, a take it all in and count your blessings kind of person.  As the client weddings have ended for the year and I’m settling into my new place while ramping up efforts for my little sister’s January wedding, I can’t help but reflect even more on my appreciation.   Not just because we’re getting closer to Thanksgiving or the whole family holiday season – but because I was pretty sure this year was going to kill me and yet, much to my satisfaction, I am still standing.  This is a very personal post, but I wouldn’t be where I am right now if it weren’t for my family, my friends, and my clients-turned-friends.  Queue the happy, personal journey music (a fave happy song right now is “Strawberry Swing” by Coldplay)… It’s a wordy post!

This year has been incredibly bittersweet for me as business has taken off for me, I have had a great sense of accomplishment but at the same time my personal life took a wild twist that I never in my life would have anticipated.  I’ve moved twice, I’ve pushed through an insane work schedule, trying to keep up with an ever changing industry, and have been working through the intense heartache of having someone walk out of my life after nearly a decade together and only a year and a half of marriage.

Some things will challenge you to the point of torture and you’re ready to curl up and let the world pass you by.  When the decision to end my marriage was made I was ready to do that and I was ready to end the business as well.  How could I possibly encourage other people to be successful in their marriages if mine didn’t even last?  How could I keep it together for other people and be their support for every avenue of planning their marriages when I was falling apart on the inside and hoping I didn’t crack and lose it over a discussion about how to set up escort cards at a details meeting.  Would it reflect poorly on me as a planner?  As a person?  I firmly believe that I am there to assist with preparing for the marriage and not just the wedding.  I love planning the event, but I love that I am able to assist couples so they can focus on marriage preparations and not just the small details of the day.  Almost every major hard part in the closing of my relationship, was followed by a major bright spot in my year of planning, and every low point of “that” process was marked with some sort of important moment with my clients.  It truly has been a year that can only be defined as bittersweet for me.

I have made it through 2009 because I have been able to rely on family to help me with little things from helping me work through a Chuppah emergency at a May wedding (Thanks Mom and Dad) or helping with tear down at numerous events (Thanks brother, sister, and soon to be brother-in-law), and endless phone calls just to hear me out (Thanks, Christine) or send me notes of encouragement that made my entire week (thanks cousins and aunts).  I have had friends step up to the plate both with assisting and moral support, and I have made some wonderful new friends in the vendors I’ve met this year.  And my clients… I know we all say we’ve got the best clients, but I will fight for this one!  The support I’ve gotten from my couples is something I will never be able to fully express my gratitude for.  The long, off the subject chats, the fun email exchanges, the hugs and laughs the day of the wedding, the letters I get after the weddings… I cherish all of it.  Their understanding and kind words of support for who I am and what I do have been fuel to push me forward.  I love the connection I have with each and every one of you.  As the summer went on and I witnessed so many other giddy couples take their vows and make their promises to each other, I realized I was right where I needed to be and that there was a purpose for each and every person in my life.  I have a sense of renewed understanding about myself and my life but also a renewed focus for what I do and why I do it.  Being involved in such an intimate way with the human connection of love and family is both a privilege and honor to witness each week.  I think everyone that does this should see it that way – we are being allowed into other people’s lives.  Invited in.  We should take a moment out of it all to be appreciative of the experience.

Sometimes you don’t have a choice about things, but what counts most is what you do with the choices you DO have and that you really focus on the things and people in your life that do matter.   I’m stubborn and determined, so I already knew I could handle anything life threw at me, I just didn’t know I had so much support immediately ready to let me lean on them if I needed it.  As the year has wound down, I am feeling a bit like my old self again and feeling more healthy every day.  I am blessed.  I already knew this.  I am lucky to be able to lean on people that sincerely want good things for me in my life, and I hope that I am able to return the same kind of support should it ever be needed.  If you can’t tell by now, I’m an ‘ it’s the journey, not the end goal ‘ kind of girl.  Thanks for listening.  Hopefully you’ll draw some sort of motivation to think about what it is that helped you succeed or survive this year… because we didn’t do it alone.

I call this year a win for Team Fischer.  Thanks, guys.  ”Thanks” will never be enough., fab.friends, unspeakable gratitude

Fab Vendors

November 23rd, 2009

I’ve read elsewhere that some vendors do their preferred/recommended vendor lists by offering discounts or kick-backs to other vendors in exchange for guaranteed business.  I was pretty appalled and didn’t believe it actually happened – until I got solicited for such an exchange.  I cannot imagine agreeing to recommend a vendor you’ve never worked with to collect on a kick-back discount that really should be passed onto your clients.  How can you really recommend someone you’ve never worked with or had other friends work with?!  Trust that I will not partner with other vendors that operate in such a fashion.

As a planner, it’s my job to align the best vendors to match my client’s styles AND budgets.  Each couple has a unique set of needs and any combination of Minnesota wedding vendors can be made to make their vision come to life.  Not every vendor I work with fits the right categories for each couple, so I can’t say that I have a set preferred vendor list nor will I ever post one (and understand why other vendors don’t as well).  I can honestly say I’ve only had one bad – scratch that – TERRIBLE experience with a vendor when they failed to show up to the wedding.  Needless to say, for professional differences, I cannot work with them ever again (but then again, they’re not ‘doing weddings’ anymore… thank goodness!).  I have worked with dozens and dozens of great vendors over the last couple of years and look forward to meeting new artists that I can collaborate with to create an incredible day for my clients.

With that said, I have to give a huge THANK YOU to the vendors that I’ve worked with that have been so kind to add me to their list of recommended vendors.  Each of them were kind enough to add me to lists on their sites or blogs, and it means so much to me that these professionals want to work with me again.  It helps that working with all of them was a pleasure because of our common link:  the fabulous clients that chose us!

Here is my shout out to some fab vendors for their support.  Check all of them out!

Julie and the ladies at  Smart and Chic Bride

Justin and Chrissy the adorable husband and wife duo of Graddy Photography

413 Wacouta

Alissa of I Do Flowers

Gina Zeidler of Zeidler Photography

Jenny Semans of I Do Wedding Details

Emma Freeman of Emma Freeman Photography

and a shout out to James Ramsay of James Ramsay Photography

for inviting me to tag along and showing me the ropes at a recent networking event.


76 Days ’til the Sister is Wed!

November 15th, 2009

Last night 14 of us gathered in our favorite little black dresses, donned matching teal bead necklaces, and celebrated my sister’s very numbered single-girl days.  She rocked a killer teal number and wore the obligatory pink bachelorette pieces as we showered her with  gifts that definitely made her blush in front of our mother!  After enjoying the drinks, hors d’oeuvres, and catching up, we went out on the town and showed off our best dance moves.  I totally adore her friends, and stayed up way too late gabbing and eating the leftover goodies.  I can’t wait for the wedding… 76 days is too long to wait now!  (Actually, I’ll take the 76 days to get in MOH shape.  I’m in the dress, but eh… I’ve got some work to do.  Not fair with all the great shower/party food!)


Love you like none otha, Sissy!

fab.weddings: Jessica + Rob | St. Paul, MN

November 7th, 2009

I had so much fun getting to know Jessica and Rob!  They allowed me to coordinate their September 27, 2008 wedding at the stunning James J. Hill Library in downtown St. Paul.  The day was a bit overcast and chilly for what we’d have liked in September, but we missed any sort of rain (Anita and Joe got all of it a couple weeks prior!) so we couldn’t complain!   I started the day off by delivering the bridal party flowers to everyone at The Saint Paul Hotel then got everything set up at the J. J. Hill Library.  They had a lot of incredible personal touches – my favorite of which was a bagpiper for the processional and homemade truffles for the guest favors.  The best part of the day, for me anyway, was when Rob decided to jam with the band and perform for all the guests.  Jessica and Rob’s photographer, Helios Photography, submitted some of their wedding pictures to Minnesota Bride Magazine and they were selected to be published in the Fall/Winter 2009 publication.  Check them out on pages 158-159!


Well done, Rob.  A Tiffany’s necklace for Jessica’s wedding day gift.


Jessica did an awesome job of pulling together details of a library wedding.  Their invitations were booklets complete with a covered spine and old school book cards for the RSVP card.  Their escort cards were held in an old library card catalog for the guests to thumb through and find their table assignments.


Jessica had her grandfather’s watch face attached to her bouquet.  He was very dear to her and it was the best way to keep him close on the wedding day.


Love in Rice Park




The library has a beautiful ceremony set up.






I really liked the different way to incorporate the fall colors in the table runners and reeds wrapped in leaves.


Each guest got a homemade truffle at their seats.


Rob: attorney at law AND a rockstar!


And they danced the night away!  THANKS SO MUCH, you two!

The Vendor List:

Ceremony + Reception: James J. Hill Library

Photographer: Helios Photography

Videographer: YellowTree Event Videography

Florals: I Do Flowers

Cakes: Queen of Cakes

Band:  The Steel Blue

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